I catch myself all the time, I say “no”, but then have to insert an excuse!
“No, we can’t make it, I have to work late.”
“No, he can’t come to the birthday party, he has another commitment.”
“No, I can’t help out in the classroom, I have a doctor’s appointment.”
Perhaps it makes me feel better, that I provide a reason? But really when I think about it, is a reason necessary? Sometimes the reason is not even true. I guess the other option would be to tell the truth.
“No, we can’t make it because I would rather sit at home and rest in my jammies after a long day at work.”
“No, he can’t come to the birthday party, because his Mom does not feel like driving 30 minutes out of her way for a 2 hour party.”
“No, I can’t help in the classroom because I have helped the past 3 times, can’t another parent step up and volunteer?”
Don’t get me wrong, I say “YES” a lot but sometimes you just have to say “NO”. Any maybe it makes we feel better when I explain why. But really, if you say “no”, no explanation is needed. Do you provide an explanation when you say “yes”? I didn’t think so.
I’m learning to say “no” more often when I tend to be a bit overwhelmed. I sometimes like to overcommit myself when given the opportunity to participate in multiple events and do not want to miss out. But on the flipside, there are times when there is no need for me to participate and I really just need to say “no”.
So in 2016, I am going to attempt to say “no” just a little more, and try to every once in a while to leave it as a simple “no” with no explanation!